Every love relationship must have experienced an argument. The party trying to win the fight will usually try very hard to prove the couple has made a
Every love relationship must have experienced an argument. The party trying to win the fight will usually try very hard to prove the couple has made a mistake. People who struggle to win fights can foster resentment in relationships. So that in the future the relationship becomes unhealthy and happy.
Making mistakes and repeating them can threaten the relationship by denying absolute trust, understanding, and moral support between partners.
So, here are some mistakes in a relationship that should not be repeated this new year.
1. Troubleshooting Trivial Things
If you and your partner want to have a healthy relationship, you should stop worrying about trivial things from now on. Focus on the more basic things that form the strong foundation of your relationship such as commitment, responsibility, and problem-solving skills.
2. Not prioritizing yourself
A relationship consists of two individuals who put their best effort and energy into staying together and because of that, we end up looking after our partner’s wants and needs more than our own.
Making your partner a priority is not always good. This is because it will bring up pressure and stress from both sides of the relationship.
Prioritizing your partner too much will limit the social environment and will make your partner easily bored.
In addition, excessive attention because it is too prioritized will actually give pressure and disturb.
Instead, treat your partner in a balanced way by giving your partner the freedom to have privacy so they don’t feel too constrained.
Even better if you start putting yourself first. Prioritizing your opinions, views, and desires doesn’t mean you’re too selfish, but you also have to be careful about your own needs.
3. Set no limits
Relationships are usually more like a probationary period before getting into something more serious. The mistake made was not setting limits. Even though when they are still dating, many couples are too open and know what they shouldn’t know.
Then all you have to do is determine what you want from the relationship and set boundaries accordingly. Say what makes you comfortable and have a non-negotiable list.
This is very important in a relationship. No matter how close you are to your partner, boundaries will help you balance the similarities between the two of you.
Before getting into a relationship, understand what makes you comfortable and don’t need to give your partner a clear understanding of what boundaries to set.
4. Lying to your partner
Honesty and frankness is one of the keys to a successful longterm relationship. However, not infrequently we have to refrain from saying things that might hurt our partner, even though it is honesty.
Not wanting to be honest with what we think and feel, will be a time bomb to your relationship. It will not only hurt your partner, but also harm yourself.
Especially if you have to lie to your partner. Although sometimes we have to hide the truth to keep our partner’s feelings, lies are still lies. If your partner finds out the truth one day, he will lose his trust in you.
5. Lack of listening skill
A solid partner will always listen to each other. Balance communication between when you have to ask or demand, and when to listen to complaints and the wishes of your partner. Likewise, when you are fighting, give your partner an opportunity to explain and express his opinion.
In everyday interactions, be a truly present partner. When she is talking, look her in the eyes and listen carefully to what she is sharing with you.
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