No matter where you go in life or who you are, you will encounter conflicts in your relationships in your daily life. Sometimes this will be in th
No matter where you go in life or who you are, you will encounter conflicts in your relationships in your daily life. Sometimes this will be in the form of negative comments or false accusations. If you do not manage these situations well, they can quickly turn into conflicts and stressful events that can ruin your day and have a lasting impact on your health and your ability to thrive relentlessly. Here are 3 keys to managing daily conflict in your relationships.
The first key to managing conflict in your relationship is managing expectations in your daily interactions. You have to remember almost everyone has expectations of what they want for themselves and for those around them. These expectations are part of the fabric of the relationship between you and others, husband and wife, sisters, brothers, parents and children, friends, co-workers and bosses, teachers and students. When expectations are not met, conflict results. When you reduce your expectations you also reduce daily conflict. Another approach to the idea of managing expectations is to make them more realistic. By turning your expectations into achievable goals, you can help yourself avoid conflicts.
The second key to managing conflict in your relationships is staying focused in the present moment. This will help you remain calm and discover the best ways to stay effective in the midst of any emotional disruption in your interactions with others. Research has shown that strong emotions can impair your memory for less emotional events and your memory for information experienced at around the time of a strong emotional event. This can be dangerous because you may end up doing or saying things you would regret later. Your ability to protect your health every day and thrive depends on your ability to stay calm and effective in difficult situations.
The third key to managing conflict in your relationships is gaining a better understanding of the assumptions driving your interactions with others. Try to understand the assumptions that are driving your decision making process in the moment. Is it pride? Is it a question of “do you know who I am?” Is it fear? Is it fairness? Are you afraid of how others will react to your action or decision? Are you worried about what you might lose? Are worried about what you might gain? You have to learn how to identify which assumptions are valid, and which assumptions need to be addressed or ignored. The greater the clarity you gain in assumptions, the more clearly you will know what to do reduce conflict. This is part of the process of relentless self-mastery.