Open communication is one of the keys to household success. Trust is also an important foundation for a long lasting marriage. However, what when you
Open communication is one of the keys to household success. Trust is also an important foundation for a long lasting marriage. However, what when you find out that your partner is lying? There are several ways to find out if a partner is lying.
However, don’t let this problem create a cracking household relationship. There are solutions that can be done, of course, if you and your partner really want to try to be better.
Based on the research results, it takes a lot of energy and thoughts to lie, which in turn will affect a person’s movements. This is why researchers suggest that body language can be a clue that someone is hiding something.
Sign of a Lying Partner
There are several distinctive signs, both verbal (words) and nonverbal (body language), which are often carried out by someone who is lying. These signs are:
1. Avoid eye contact
A person who is lying is usually seen from the eyes that have no clear direction of sight. He will also appear to avoid direct eye contact with the interlocutor. For example, your partner often looks at his watch or in other directions, as if he wants to end the conversation with you.
2. Too many details
Sometimes, because of trying hard to convince their partner or to change the subject, a person will say a lot of things that are not really important and instead explain things that were not asked.
3. Changes in voice and expression
Our voices, words and body language are programmed to harmonize. Now, if you find a discrepancy between these things with your partner, it could be that he is lying.
For example, when he answers “yes”, but his head shakes or he answers your question in a high tone of voice. Can also be recognized by the tone of his voice that is too low, but speaking fast, coupled with the expression on his face that is panic or even looks bored.
4. Think hard
Generally, someone who is telling the truth has no trouble remembering events or situations. On the other hand, someone who is lying will appear to be over thinking about making up a fake story.
When asked to repeat their statements with a reverse plot alias from the end to the beginning of the incident, often the person who is lying looks doubtful or gives a different explanation from the story that was previously told. And sometimes, instead of thinking hard, they can easily excuse themselves as forgetting.
5. Looks restless and away from the other person
When afraid that something is hidden being revealed, someone will look nervous and want to get away from the other person. For example, your partner can be seen turning their head back while talking to you, tapping their feet, biting their lips, or picking up and playing with something in their hand.
When asked about their changed behavior, or if you talk about topics related to cheating, your partner may avoid and immediately change the subject.
6. Repeating Questions Before Answering
A person who is lying often repeats the question before answering it. This condition is used by couples to assemble false facts to become answers to questions given by the partner. In addition, usually someone who is lying seems very thoughtful when answering a question even though it is an easy question to answer.
7. Accused of lying
Couples who are afraid of being caught lying will accuse you back. This can be a way for your partner to try to justify their own actions and then blame.
As a partner, there is nothing wrong with speaking openly and expressing suspicion that has been felt so far. Good communication makes relationships more open. That way, you can avoid various problems that may occur due to lying in household relationships.